I’m sorry to admit it but we’ve had a bit of a setback.
Louie and I have been working incredibly hard and doing very well. He has
improved his greeting when people come to the door, although he did have a
“strong” reaction to the guy who was repairing my air conditioner. However, $650
later, I think Louie was on to something so I let that one go.
Then there was the time he tried to tear down the door to
get to the adorable pizza delivery girl. Personally, I don’t blame him since Jet’s
deep-dish pizza was on the other side. Thankfully,
he settled down while I was handling the transaction and was quite well behaved.
But neither of those incidents was the setback. It is much worse
and with apologies to our very capable trainer Zig, I am not sure there’s any
hope for changing him. You see, he is scared to death of cats. Any color and
any type of cat-- he is terrified. Unfortunately, it does not help that during
our walks he can see them skulking across the street several yards away.
I’m not sure what happened to cause such a strong reaction.
It is more than just the normal dog/cat thing. He actually shudders. Evi thinks
the nick on his ear is from a cat. How she deducted that, I have no idea, but
she may be correct. He relives the deep emotional trauma brought on by a cat in
his past every time he sees one, and this has been detrimental to his life’s
journey—that is, of having fun and happily socializing with other beings in the
neighborhood.
But it has occurred to me that Louie has no idea how strong
he is. Cat lovers, you may want to stop reading at this point because it won’t
be pretty. Louie doesn’t know that his 40-pound muscular frame could dominate a cat and
his mouth is so huge and powerful that one chomp…well, you know where I’m going
with this. Yet he doesn’t show any signs of aggression toward them; he just
whines, shudders and tries desperately to run away. It’s unsettling that he
gets so upset and the cat doesn’t even acknowledge a dog is in the area. When
faced with a feline, he just needs to keep walking. But he feels the need to
alert the entire neighborhood that a wicked cat is in the vicinity, and
everyone needs to take cover!
Just like Louie, some of us are oblivious to our strengths. We
don’t know how strong we are in certain areas and what we are truly capable of
if we operate out of our strengths? Many of us let fear, doubt and insecurity
rule our minds and this causes us to miss tapping into our talents.. On the
other hand, some of us think so highly of ourselves that we overestimate our strengths.
And imagine the amount of untapped talent we have within our own team because they
are not aware of their strengths.
Many of us have taken assessments that indicate our strengths
and these are great tools. But I find the best form of assessment is asking
people who will speak truth into my life and give me honest feedback. If you
have adult children, ask them to tell you your strengths and weaknesses.
My daughter, Marisa, has always been a wonderful truth
teller in my life. Years ago, she had to do a high school project about her
hero. She read her final report to me and I was impressed with the
characteristics she described and the impact this person had in her life. Moreover,
I was amazed to learn I was that hero. I certainly did not see myself in that
same light but it inspired me to act out of those strengths.
Some time ago, a study was done called “Reflected Best Self
Exercise,” which is based on research by Robert Quinn, Jane Dutton, Gretchen
Spreitzer, and Laura Morgan Roberts. They shared how to go about assessing your
strengths by gathering feedback from those around you who know you best.
Many of us are like Louie in that we operate in fear because
we don’t recognize where we are strong. It has taken me years to identify my
strengths and understand how to operate in them. As a leader, my role is help
others recognize their strengths and empower them to cultivate those strengths.
I know from experience that helping someone discover their strengths is a
blessing not just for that person, but to everyone in their sphere of influence.
NOTE: I decided to interview Louie specifically for this blog (AMATEUR VIDEO :-):
INTERVIEW 1
INTERVIEW 2 (Louie thinks he's funny)
INTERVIEW 1
INTERVIEW 2 (Louie thinks he's funny)