Previously, I
shared that providing excellent leadership for my adopted dog, as well as
people, takes time, discipline, and unconditional love. It takes strength and courage to love and lead well.
It’s not simply about being nice but rather about letting go of your own agenda
and serving another. Love is not a word you hear in the workplace, and I
suggested we reflect on how to truly and boldly love others.
As I continue to learn to be
a good leader to Louie, one of the toughest principles for me to grasp
[WARNING: friends, swallow your food before continuing] was how to be the Alpha
Dog. That’s right, my trainer let me know that I was a weak Alpha. And my lack
of strong leadership caused confusion for Louie, forcing him into the position
of having to step up and lead.
Before Louie and I found
each other, I never gave much thought to asserting my role as Alpha Dog.
Consequently, my dogs assumed that role and I let them. It didn’t seem to
matter because they were small and harmless. And by the time I got home after a
long day at work, I was tired of being Alpha, so I let them boss me around. But
that approach doesn’t work for Louie and it definitely does not work for people
There is so much that goes
into being a good Alpha; being consistent, providing safety, setting
appropriate boundaries, giving genuine and abundant praise, and offering necessary
correction. Again, all of those things must be rooted in trust and undergirded
by love.
When the trainer first met
us, Louie behaved very badly and I was at my wits end. The trainer described my
body language as defeated. Louie responded to this with fear and confusion. The
words that moved me off the dime were, “I’ve seen you do leadership seminars,
now you’ve got to do what you do in those seminars. Exude confidence. He needs
reassurance that you know what you’re doing.”
Really? For my dog? I had made
the common mistake of assuming that he would instinctively know that I’m the
boss – simply because I’m the human, I’m larger than he, and I think more
“knowledgeable.” The trainer taught me that it is about my level of confidence
in where I’m going and what needs to
be accomplished. That confidence is in knowing what’s best for Louie, giving
him firm direction, and drawing out his very best behavior.
As leaders, our assumptions
about others and about situations around us unintentionally cause confusion
among our team. We have expectations that are not always clearly communicated,
and then when not met, causes disappointment on our part and confusion on the
part of others. Ken Blanchard often refers to this as seagull management -
meaning a manager who only interacts with employees when a problem arises. This
style of leadership involves hasty decisions about things of which they have
little understanding, resulting in messy situations for others to clean up.
Being a strong leader is
about so much more than claiming an impressive title, wearing expensive suits
and appearing important. It is about:
•
Owning the
leadership role we’ve been given;
•
Resisting the
urge to react out of our own fears and insecurities;
•
Addressing
problems before we lose our cool;
•
And effectively
communicating the vision and seeking to understand our team.
Dogs and people need a humble
leader not a bossy dictator. I’ve committed to leading with intentionality,
clear vision and goals. I encourage you to do the same – whether you’re leading
canines or humans.
Louie and one of his alpha puppies, my granddaughter, Evi. She is
honing her leadership skills and he happily follows.
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